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Making Marriage Work
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Making Marriage Work
New Rules for an Old Institution

...[A] hands-on, practical guide for couples at every stage of marriage.

--Shelf Awareness


Never preachy or holier-than-thou..."Making Marriage Work" is good to read whether you've put a ring on it recently or decades ago. If you want to glue your "I do," get hitched to this book soon.

--The Bookworm Sez


As the judge starring on the hit nationally syndicated television show Divorce Court, Lynn Toler witnesses, en masse, the thematic mistakes made in American marriages. She herself has also been wed for 22 years and has seen both the highs and lows of matrimony in her own marriage as well as the marriages of those close to her. While the national divorce rate hovers around the 50% threshold, there is a lot of chatter that marriage as we know it is an outdated institution--that we are too selfish, too unwilling to make sacrifices, and too misguided by elevated expectations of happiness to make marriage work.


While these points may hold some validity, a lot of this chatter is nothing new. So what's causing so many divorces and, perhaps even more importantly, what are we to do about it if we want marriage to survive? Drawing from both her professional career and personal life, Toler sees that the biggest impediment to marriage these days is that couples decide to take the plunge based almost entirely on the most irrational criteria: falling in love.


Making Marriage Work doesn't suggest that love has nothing to do with marriage at all; rather, Toler says that love by itself is simply not enough to make marriages survive. This book is a logical and simple guide to reintroducing some of the practicality of marriage that has leaked out of it over the years. Replete with simple, no-nonsense rules, Divorce Court anecdotes, and stories about Judge Toler's own union, Making Marriage Work contains invaluable information couples can use today to secure their marital tomorrow.

 

Lynn Toler graduated from Harvard University and got her law degree from the University of Pennsylvania. After a decade practicing law in Cleveland, she was elected judge of the Cleveland Heights Municipal Court in 1993. During her tenure, she was actively engaged in the community, creating innovative programs to help at-risk youth and coordinating resources and outreach to victims of domestic violence.

 

She became the host of Divorce Court, the longest-running television court program, in 2006. Her no-nonsense, straightforward advice and rulings have endeared her to legions of Divorce Court's fans. She brings the same practical insights to Making Marriage Work, drawing on her own 22-year marriage to Eric Mumford. She is the author of My Mother's Rules (2007), also published by Agate Bolden. Judge Toler has two sons and four stepsons, and frequently posts about her large, busy family on her Facebook page.

Judge Lynn Toler stops by Fox Chicago to discuss MAKING MARRIAGE WORK

Details

Title Making Marriage Work
Subtitle New Rules for an Old Institution
Edition First Edition
Author Lynn Toler
Audience 01 General / trade
Title First Published 25 July 2012
 
Format Paperback
Nb of pages 224 p.
ISBN-10 1-932841-65-2
ISBN-13 978-1-932841-65-7
GTIN13 (EAN13) 9781932841657
Reference no. 978-1-932841-65-7
Publication Date 12 August 2012
Main content page count 224
Dimensions 6 x 9 in.
Weight 9 oz.
List Price $15.95
 
Format ePub
Nb of pages
ISBN-10 1-57284-697-6
ISBN-13 978-1-57284-697-5
GTIN13 (EAN13) 9781572846975
Reference no. 978-1-57284-697-5
Publication Date 15 August 2012
List Price $9.99
 

Excerpt

Additional Materials

MMW presskit ( pdf 248 KB )
Judge Lynn counsels couples on The Ricki Lake Show

Lynn Toler on the Ricky Smiley Morning Show

Q&A with Lynn Toler ( pdf 212 KB )
Lynn Toler answers questions about Making Marriage Work.

Reviews

Press Reviews

Shelf Awareness
[Toler's] sense of humor is a welcome companion to her practicality; for example, her take on Divorce Court: "Yes, I know the show is a bit extreme, voyeuristic, and, well, often a little silly, but if you listen past the anger, I sincerely believe that the people on the show have something to teach us all." Happily, Toler is neither extreme nor silly in her "how to" book on marriage, and the result is a hands-on, practical guide for couples at every stage of marriage.
- Kristen Galles

The Bookworm Sez
Aug 30, 2012
Using her own marriage [and its troubles] as example, author Lynn Toler subtly lets readers know that having marital problems isn't anything shameful or abnormal but that it is fixable. In this book, she looks at how a marriage bruises, then she offers solid advice for newlyweds, Golden Anniversary celebrants, and everybody between. Toler then hints that the work is never done but that the rewards can be worth the effort.

 

Never preachy or holier-than-thou, I think "Making Marriage Work" is good to read whether you've put a ring on it recently or decades ago. If you want to glue your "I do," get hitched to this book soon.
- Terri Schlichenmeyer

LearnLove.org
Oct 3, 2012
"As the judge starring on the hit nationally syndicated television show Divorce Court, Lynn Toler witnesses, en masse, the thematic mistakes made in American marriages. She herself has also been wed for 22 years and has seen both the highs and lows of matrimony in her own marriage as well as the marriages of those close to her."



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